A Letter To The Public

I have commented now and then on this blog about how the relations between men and women have changed over the past few decades. Frankly, they aren’t as good as they used to be. I have mentioned that I have seen more young men and women going it alone, meaning they aren’t dating, aren’t getting married, aren’t starting families. I could point out a host of reasons why this is happening, and doing so, could make this post dozens of pages long. Some of those reasons I would cite would be based upon my observations, on my indirect experiences, and on numerous articles and websites. I could lay the blame for this situation on all kinds of social changes that have taken place, one of them being the disconnect that has been caused by social media, something that was supposed to bring people together but has had just the opposite effect.

When I see stats that say that 63% of single men between the ages of 18 and 36 are not dating, that’s a danger signal. That the marriage rate in the US has plummeted while divorce rates have skyrocketed is also a danger signal. I watch posts on YouTube and TikTok which see modern women disparaging men because thy don’t meet unrealistic expectations and those which see modern men disparaging women as self-important with inflated visions of their self-worth and who should be dating them – basically narcissism – and to whom the average man is invisibl. It’s gone too darned far. I could delve deeper into that and spend hours writing this post.

What brought this up at today’s topic? Simply, a letter in today’s edition of our local paper which was more of an advertisement and social commentary at the same time. Here it is minus a few identifying items at the end:

Chance for Love

Perhaps is is now as it has always been in part, some fault of my own that my dear boy, who is now a young man, is unable to find love. My heart aches every day at the concealed loneliness behind his steadfast routine. He is too humble to bestow accolades upon himself and is not well leveraged to meet women. As such, please consider my shameless proclamation herein notwithstanding his consent.

This tall and handsome lad is unique in this time for his genuine character, honesty and benevolence. Strong, healthy and fit, he does not drink nor smoke any variety. He bears a lifelong respect for Christian principles but is not settled on a religion. A constitution-loving American boy, he aligns with those who are proud of this country and its heritage. He has no offspring and no debt despite earning a difficult bachelor's degree and more. An intellectual homebody of sorts, he also enjoys working outdoors, seasonal activities, and playing with his dogs in his home state of (central) New Hampshire.

At age 28, my responsible and dependable son continues to add to his current savings that can easily secure a comfortable homestead. He has long conveyed his desire to marry a kindhearted and hardworking woman of similar values for the purpose of raising a family and mutual, lifelong devotion, adoration and happiness. His presence is always enjoyed and his character admired by those who come to know him, but he is not fluent at fostering these eventualities. Social enterprises and watering holes are not compatible with his reserved personality. Sound like your warm heart? Only if [you’re] true, take a chance and I will reveal to him this post and your response.

That it has come to this is disheartening, at least to me. Fifty, forty, thirty, even twenty years ago young women would be beating a path to this young man’s door. Today, he’s invisible to them because he’s not what have become to be known as a “Sixer” – at least six feet tall, six pack abs, six figure income, and and at least six inches where it counts. He also has to be at least ‘9’ in looks as well as meet a lengthy and unrealistic list of other “must haves” that no man on the planet can possibly meet. He’s not “exciting”, meaning he’s not a bad boy, not a so-called “Chad” or “Tyrone”. Today, he might be someone a modern young women might “settle” for, but that’s about it. That’s a sad commentary.

That this young man’s mother has had to resort to such a letter/advertisement in a newspaper shows us just how bad it’s become. Reading it, I know of a dozen or so young men that fit the description laid out by this woman concerned about her son’s non-existent love life.

‘Nuff said...